Yes! Yes, exactly. While season 5 was airing my friend and were discussing why (one of the reasons) it wasn’t as big a hit as other campy, fun, smart scifi shows among certain people was that it had such a female gaze. Like you said, Dutch is treated like how male leads are treated, everyone wants her, everyone wants to be with her, everyone wants to be around her. But at the same time, she doesn’t abandon compassion or treat people the way many male leads do.
And all the men around her, all the good guys, have such a baseline of decency. No matter how grumpy and surly they may actually be, whether it’s Turin or literal Fancy “Asshole” Lee, they start from a place where you can absolutely trust them around Dutch or any woman. Johnny and D’av are like, fantasy versions of guys, just filled with devotion and respect and love for Dutch. She is the center of the show in a way we so rarely see. Even in many female-led series, you have writers using those women to prop up male characters. But this show loves Dutch. It is about her and it treats her so well.
With other female characters, who are all very much their own person, there isn’t that frisson of rivalry or jealousy because that love for Dutch carries over. She’s just that cool and smart and pretty, of course women are going to love her too. Of course Zeph’s going to have a major crush on her. When literal villain Delle Seyah was introduced, it ended with her being IMPRESSED by Dutch and flirting with her, as suspicious and selfish a person as Delle Seyah was. And because they’ve had this seasons-long soulmate true love arc with Delle Seyah and Aneela, they’re able to play around with it for Dutch without any kind of sourness because it’s only ever teased.