Right, I was going to draw a comparison to when people say they don’t see race because in the same way, it’s not doing someone a favor, as if their race or sexuality was a bad thing that’s now no longer a factor. Like, how else is that meant to be taken? “Don’t worry, when I noticed, it was bad, but now I don’t so it’s all good.” People should be able to acknowledge it and NOT treat it like a bad thing.
Are we treating labels as a separate thing from what they identify as? Is the difference that one is applied by other people and the other is chosen by themselves? You say you’re straight is still a label, isn’t it? Using a box as a metaphor is perhaps not the best way to approach this, but I think I stand by my original argument: go with what people choose for themselves, whether it’s a specific label/identity or the absence of one or even “TBD”.