Heh, that’s like daring me to post. But really, I’ll usually answer anything sent in good faith, even if I disagree, and in this case…okay, I think we can all agree that there are certain dynamics that are just inescapable in the world most of us live in. Women, gay people, and gay women specifically are not particularly favorably regarded in general, even by themselves. And this is of course not even including aspects like race or gender identity, which add their own complexity. So no, I don’t rule it out that’s part of it, there’s just more good faith and understanding afforded to certain groups.
BUT, tbh, even if that’s at work here, to me that’s not the main source of criticism, at least not the kind we’re mostly seeing and experiencing. I feel like a lot of it is coming from wlw in particular. And of course, we aren’t free from judging ourselves, but I feel like what could be happening is a level of personal identification that demands better from this character where the expectation would be lower for others. Other characters can do whatever and are granted more grace, but they’re not representing us. Because of this closeness, there may be an urge to repudiate it, as in, we would never do this, this is horrible harmful behavior and it’s insulting to associate it to us.
But just a guess at what all’s causing this reaction, heh, since it really flummoxed me.