“The way people are acting about closeted people in general is eye-opening and hugely hurtful. I had no idea until now how many people don’t think of closeted people as…equally queer? Queer at all? Again and again, I’m seeing narratives where Harper is just…apparently choosing to be closeted for no reason at all, basically another straight person and deliberately treating Abby like this because she wants to or something.” OMG THIS. The movie is so clear it’s the *situation* doing this to Harper?

Right, that is the literal storyline, that a usually loving gf reaches her lowest point in these circumstances. Sorry, by this point, I’m kind of repeating the same thing, there’s only so much to be said, especially when most of this ask is my own quote (:P) but yeah, you can’t disconnect the two things. And it is up to you how willing you are to forgive her actions but it’s a character who, the story itself says, acts badly only about this one thing, acknowledges and apologizes for that, and then spends at least 10 months making up for it. And it’s part of a genre where this happens, you don’t take it seriously because you know it’s exaggerated, both the ups and downs.