Ah, well, thanks! I think most people think like that, we only hear of the few exceptions that don’t because, well, unless the people who’re fine with it are getting a bunch of asks, there’s no reason for them to be putting it out there. 😛 Mostly it’s disagreement that gets voiced unprompted, not shrugs.
Oh, I wouldn’t worry about the hardline stance discouraging writers, that was the fear after the Lexa outcry and we’ve only seen a rise in LGBT characters, and for a good few years there, almost no deaths. And would you really want characters written by people who were going to kill them off but now that they know it’s frowned on don’t want to write the character at all?
I also think we tend to overestimate how loud the f/f fandom is, we wince at the reputations certain fandoms get, but that’s just…fandom. We’re only noticing those in particular because they’re ours, but m/m and m/f fandoms are just as loud (if not more so, because they’re more of them). Sometimes they get what they want, sometimes they don’t, it’s just how media works. And yes, they can’t all use homophobia as a specific criticism but they can usually find another political approach. Doesn’t mean the writers are going to be more inclined to listen, whether that’s a good or bad thing.