Oh, I wasn’t saying that. I was talking about what attracted us to it and its treatment of tropes and our reactions to them.
We will accept almost anything, and in fact, are mostly accepting even here, but death, forced insertion of men into f/f plots, and babies, those are the ones that always get to us because they’re so common and they imply such a…lack of us. They stop centering on us and instead focus on other things and often carry homophobic messages with them.
ETA (I should have waited a second longer to post this)
And another anon:
But the thing is, friends to lovers and mutual pining thing are tropes, sure, but the “presumed lesbian sleeps with a guy” is so very harmful that they can’t be compared. Like sure these things are all tropes but they can’t be weighed equally ya feel
Right, that’s what I’m saying. They’re all just storytelling devices when we don’t include context, but we do have very specific contexts for some of them. It’s not just being a good or a bad trope, that’s difficult to define, there should be a good balance, as my kind anon above pointed out, but we have some harmful ones that have to be used very carefully.